I’ve worked with over 1,000 kids—the ones with the best people skills use these 6 phrases

No one is born with perfect people skills. Kids learn people skills — including communication, emotional intelligence, boundary setting, and empathy — by watching their trusted adults and practicing in real-life scenarios in safe environments. As a certified child life specialist and licensed therapist who has supported thousands of kids and families, I've seen these skills help kids build confidence, navigate relationships and handle stress and challenges. Over time, kids who develop strong people skills also tend to become more flexible, adaptable, and self-reflective. Here are six phrases kids with the best people skills might say, and what you can do to foster them from an early age. 1. 'I'm upset' Kids with strong people skills have seen the adults around them name and process emotions. This helps them identify their own emotions and feel comfortable expressing them. They become more comfortable with a wide range of emotions, including not just happiness, but also sadness, fear, and worry. As kids get older, they're able to identify and process more complex emotions like embarrassment, jealousy, and loneliness. 2. 'My brother is upset, he needs some space' In homes where emotions are discussed openly, kids are more likely to be aware of others' emotions and needs. They're often able to take another person's perspective and have empathy toward them. …